Imagine that a truck runs over you and you are told it was just your imagination ,
imagine that someone throws a shoe at you and you are told you made it up,
Imagine that a judge in a court of law punishes you for speaking up
Imagine that society isolates and mocks your memory and tells you that you had it all wrong because you are confused, that you stood behind a door, that you imagine things , imagine that anything that you experience is told to you is your delusionary misinterpretation ,
Imagine that this is exactly how they get away with putting you away,
with stepping over you and pretending it never happened.
Imagine this is the tools and weapons of domestic violence criminals never punished , not only hurting their victims through violence that is physical but adding to it the mistrust and the doubt of the sanity of their victims,
this is how domestic violence works
and this is how society enables this crime through therapsits that never report any suspicion that a violent man might suffer from a mental disturbance .
Do not be surprised that a violent man is never facing charges when he comes from a wealthy family that can afford to pay a lawyer,
never be shocked that a violent man not only is never having to face charges for his crime, that if he had attacked a neighbor or a stranger , he would be in jail
but as long as he attacks a woman from a difunctional family who has been brought up with self doubt, he will be a free man, because men like him never blame themselves or take responsibility for their own actions, and they are teachers and doctors and judges and lawyers and people in a position to doubt others who have made the fatal mistake of trusting the wrong person-
Be aware, and know , it is a mechanism that society benefits from, because it serves to protect society and prevent it from exposing the many lies and the many corrupt people who benefit from the pain of others they degrade humiliate and blame for their own actions.
Be aware and be very afraid
be careful who you befriend, who you date, who you marry because they can turn out to be your very worst enemy because your crime is trusting a crocodile who never will shed a tear when you hurt , and will blame you for your own pain by using social agents to cast doubt that what you say is the truth even though you know that you are sane, you are without diagnosis , but god help those who are diagnosed, those are even worse off, who will believe them ? who will trust what they say is true? and this is why society protects the criminals, the attackers, the violent thugs and then screams when terrorist attack its holy ground but there are far more terro4rists within the courts of law , acting as judges biased vicious haters that are much worse for society than any terrorist that comes from outside.
Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of psychological abuse in which a victim is manipulated into doubting their own memory, perception, and sanity. Instances may range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred up to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim. The term owes its origin to Gas Light, a 1938 play and 1944 film, and has been used in clinical and research literature.
The term originates in the systematic psychological manipulation by the main character on a victim in the 1938 stage play Gas Light, known as Angel Street in the United States, and the film adaptations released in 1940 and 1944. In the story, a husband attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane by manipulating small elements of their environment and insisting that she is mistaken, remembering things incorrectly, or delusional when she points out these changes. The original title stems from the dimming of the gas lights in the house that happened when the husband was using the gas lights in the attic while searching for hidden treasure. The wife accurately notices the dimming lights and discusses the phenomenon, but the husband insists she just imagined a change in the level of illumination.
The term “gaslighting” has been used colloquially since the 1960s to describe efforts to manipulate someone’s sense of reality. In a 1980 book on child sexual abuse, Florence Rush summarized George Cukor’s 1944 film version of Gas Light, and writes, “even today the word [gaslighting] is used to describe an attempt to destroy another’s perception of reality.”
Sociopaths and narcissists frequently use gaslighting tactics. Sociopaths consistently transgress social mores, break laws, and exploit others, but typically are also convincing liars, sometimes charming ones, who consistently deny wrongdoing. Thus, some who have been victimized by sociopaths may doubt their perceptions. Some physically abusive spouses may gaslight their partners by flatly denying that they have been violent. Gaslighting may occur in parent–child relationships, with either parent, child, or both, lying to each other and attempting to undermine perceptions.
Gaslighting describes a dynamic observed in some cases of marital infidelity: “Therapists may contribute to the victim’s distress through mislabeling the woman’s reactions. […] The gaslighting behaviors of the spouse provide a recipe for the so-called ‘nervous breakdown’ for some women [and] suicide in some of the worst situations.”
In clinical psychiatry
Psychotherapy and psychiatry have been described as forms of gaslighting wherein the therapist or psychiatrist is characterized by the patient to be of a more sound, all-knowing mind (i.e. an expert). This can potentially create a conflict where the patient is unable to trust their immediate sense of their feelings and surroundings in favor of the interpretations offered by the therapist, which come in the form of doubt or skepticism at the patient’s appraisals and perceptions of the world. Furthermore, gaslighting has been observed between patients and staff in inpatient psychiatric facilities.
In an influential 1981 article Some Clinical Consequences of Introjection: Gaslighting, Calef and Weinshel argue that gaslighting involves the projection and introjection of psychic conflicts from the perpetrator to the victim: “this imposition is based on a very special kind of ‘transfer’… of painful and potentially painful mental conflicts.” The authors explore a variety of reasons why the victims may have “a tendency to incorporate and assimilate what others externalize and project onto them”, and conclude that gaslighting may be “a very complex highly structured configuration which encompasses contributions from many elements of the psychic apparatus.” Dorpat (1994) describes this as an example of projective identification.
With respect to women in particular, Hilde Lindemann argued emphatically that in such cases, the victim’s ability to resist the manipulation depends on “her ability to trust her own judgments”. Establishment of “counterstories” may help the victim reacquire “ordinary levels of free agency.”